Public Restrooms

I have a huge pet peeve with public restrooms.

The other day I went to a meeting for work and needed to use the restroom. It was a unisex restroom which I really DO NOT LIKE! I don't want to share a restroom with guys..

Anyhow, I go in, but then decided it was too yucky to use. The toilet was unclean, there was water on the toilet seat, a lot on the floor, and all around the sink area--on the shelf above the sink..I mean it looked like somehow had a block of ice that melted everywhere. So now I am in a quandry, as I no longer want to use the restroom..but there are other people out in the lobby waiting, so if they came in after me, they will think I caused this mess!

So I had to kind of clean it up--I know, gross! But I felt pressured to do so.But I still did not want to use it.

How come public restrooms are often so disgusting!! How come people cannot go in, do their thing, n e a t ly, and then wash their hands n e a t l y (without water all over the counter and floor) and then leave. Really. How. Hard. Is. That!?

Can we all learn the rule of scouting, leave the place cleaner than you found it!!

I am amazed over and over how gross the ladies room is..that really stuns me. I expect the unisex bathroom to be gross since I am forced to share with men..but ladies seem to be pretty gross themselves. People need a refresher (no pun intended) course on bathroom etiquette. And just like I have said in my book about your guest bathroom at home, public restrooms should at minimum have a toilet bowl brush and b l e a c h cleaner handy.

This was a huge, successful company. Their bathroom should not look like that. People really need to get a clue.

Cleaning House

I read somewhere, that cleaning your house and your relationship really go hand in hand. I have thought about that a lot. Makes total sense. Yet for y e a r s, I totally missed it. It was like the two never intersected. It was like I could not see how they connected at all. I have been cleaning away for years. Popping on those rubber gloves, and scrubbing away. Pushing a vacuum cleaner all over the place, like an extension of my arm. Dusting to a brilliant shine. My house and everything in it and around it was in total order. Well not all the people inside. That was something I could never "clean." I could never get it (him) in order. And I tried and tried and tried. Maybe it just made me clean and get rid of clutter more, it is hard to remember these days..

But now I don't have a relationship to clean. It is g o n e. While I am not happy about it, as far as it not working out..I am happy that I don't try and try and try and try to make it sparkle, I no longer have to. I have all this perspective now that I did not even know about a couple of years ago, let alone 5 or 10 years ago..it was not possible for me to see.

So I guess my point is, while you are cleaning away, really notice how the main relationship is going, for me, my age, that meaning marriage. Are you spinning your wheels? You may never be able to achieve what you need in order to feel grounded. Pay attention. I spent a lot of years not doing just that.